You Are In Control

I have something to confess. I’ve been struggling a lot this year. Creatively, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Those are a lot of areas to struggle with, huh? And you know what? I know why I’ve been struggling.

I forgot that I AM IN CONTROL.

It’s easy to do, even though it sounds like something stupid. And I’m willing to bet lots of you have done the same—or are even in the same boat RIGHT NOW.

Sometimes, we can become so wrapped up in our routines and the day-to-day stuff, that we forget to live our lives with meaning. We forget to infuse our activities with intention, and then we get dragged down by the mundane and feel like we aren’t being effective. We feel like we have nothing to offer others, much less ourselves, and we keep sinking further and further down until, one day, we wake up and ask: “How the hell did I wind up here?”

I know, because that’s been me.

And while everyone thinks you’re making progress—which, perhaps you are—you really aren’t. Not at the level you desire and are capable of, anyways. It doesn’t matter what you do for a living or what you’re passionate about… You can be a writer, artist, businessperson, parent, educator, server, or flight attendant. If you’re not able to give 100% and feel like you did something meaningful at the end of the day, it feels like nothing matters. But, you know what?


You do. You really do. I matter, you matter, we ALL matter. And I want to share with you how I’m getting out of my funk and writing more than ever while being productive in other areas of my life. It’s simple and complicated all at the same time.


I control what I read, what I do with each minute of my day, what messages I choose to listen to (positive or negative), who I work with, and what I write and create. It’s the simplest thing, really, yet it can be daunting to realize the responsibility we have to ourselves. Especially when it feels like everything else is out of control.

I’ve been reading—a ton—and have become quite selective with the kinds of messages I put into my brain. I now have narrowed down my reading list and email subscriptions to only those that will give me insight into what I do and create, while propelling my vision forward. I have been making small changes to benefit my health, taking baby steps each week. I have been more intentional about the precious relationships I have with others—relationships that are mutually beneficial, that give me energy from every interaction.

Am I going to become superwoman overnight? No. But am I going to slowly and intentionally gather all the fuel I need to become a better writer, friend, daughter, sister, and influencer? Yes. Absolutely yes.

So, if you’re feeling like you’ve been in a funk too, here’s an action step I want you to take. Take a note card or a post-it and write this: I AM IN CONTROL. Put it somewhere you’ll see every day. And make it a mantra. Make it an intention. Make it an affirmation.


Remind yourself that you are in control of yourself. You are responsible for YOUrself. Sure, we can’t control others and we certainly can’t control many other things in this life, but that’s not what we’re supposed to do anyways! When we realize that we have the power to change ourselves to be better—to give more and feel fulfilled—it makes a huge difference in how you live your life and how you look at others.

The change starts with us. The change starts with YOU.

I think this is just such an important reminder for all of us, but especially for artists. It’s so easy for us to put our work first—along with everything else—that we forget to take care of ourselves.

So, march forward, my friends. You are in control of yourself, and you have the power to make the changes in your life that you need to, in order to have meaning in all that you do. I’m right here, alongside you, doing the very same.

We all have something unique to share with the world. We are enough, just as we are. And we matter.